1. So that there is no misunderstanding, please be clear that this not a homily that you usually see in this BLOG..  It is just food for thought. Also, I am not against gambling.  I have been known to purchase one or two lottery tickets when the jackpot hits $200 million or so.  I also enjoy a friendly game of poker and regularly get together with friends for $20 buy in Texas Hold'em.   Last but not least, I have visited Mississippi Gulf Coast Casinos  several times, mostly for shows at the Beau Rivage, but a few times this included a little gambling on the low stakes blackjack tables or video poker.  I estimate that I am somewhere between $400 and $500 ahead when you total out all my trips.

    My issues with the Slidell casino proposals are two-fold.  FIrst, those who have promoted gambling (government officiials as well as gambling lobbyists) in Louisiana have never kept a single promise when it comes to the terms, conditions, or benefits. Not a one. Second, two very important officials, Slidell Police Chief Randy Fandal and St. Tammany Parish Sheriff Randy Smith are outspoken opponents.  

    History of Gambling in Louisiana: A String of Broken Promises

    For those who were around when the Lottery was legalized in Louisiana, you may recall that it was promised that a flat percentage of the proceeds would be dedicated to the schools in the state. The schools needed money, so the good citizens of Louisiana approved the bill.  However, we were snookered by the politicians.  In what amounted to a legislative shell game, they did in fact dedicate the agreed money to schools, but at the same time, an equal amount of money that had been previously dedicated to schools was undedicated and sent to the general fund.  This money became available for pork barrel projects. The lottery has been a net gain of zero funding for schools.

    And then there was riverboats gambing.   What was presented to the public was 19th century style paddlewheelers cruising up and down the Mississippi, evoking gambling tales spun by Mark Twain.The 1991 legislation limited the number of caasino boats to 15. Supporters presented it as such that the romantic paddlewheelers concentrated on the Mississippi River would draw in throngs of tourists to New Orleans.  As it turns out, the vast majority of gamblers in the state are Louisiana citizens,

    The boats were supposed to cruise for three hours at a stretch followed by 90 minutes at the dock. But the casinos earned at least 25% more when docked. So the Star casino (now defunct) on Lake Pontchartrain began frequently citing the hazard of a gentle breeze to remain dockside. The Treasure Chest in Kenner cited low-hanging power lines and then simply remained at dock after the power lines were raised.

    The Queen of New Orleans, operated by the Hilton Riverside, cited fast currents on the Mississippi River to avoid cruising, even though pleasure boats went out every day from adjoining docks. The Boomtown Belle casino in Harvey blamed darkness for not sailing at night. So Casino lobbyist went to work on the Legislature. In 2001, the Legislature ended the need for excuses by mandating that the boats could simply stay dockside.

    The land-based Casono at the foot of Canal Street was sold as a small, stand-alone Monte Carlo-style casino, where high rollers in formal wear would gamble the night away.  This casino would have neither restaurants nor hotels to ensure that gamblers spent their money with the existing business in the city.  It was promised that the Casino would bring at least $250 million of revenue to the state.

    You may recall that Harrah’s began temporary operations at the Municipal Auditorium in 1995 but generated less revenue thanprojected and filed for bankruptcy months after opening. The permanent casino opened in 1999,also fell short of revenue projections, and it filed for bankruptcy a second time in 2001. Harrah’s executives and lobbyists got lawmakers to reduce the minimum state payment to $60 million and won approval to open a hotel and a restaurant. Quite far away from the $250 million promised.

    Revenue peaked for Harrah's in 2008.  They were having trouble meeting their obligations to keep 2400 full-time employee. In 2016, the Legislature gave in to Harrah’s and began counting employees at the Harrah’s hotel across Poydras Street – as well as employees at hotel restaurants – against the 2,400 employee minimum. In 2019, the Legislature approved Harrah’s request to extend its operating contractd for another 30 years and to allow the casino company to build a second hotel and open swanky restaurants. In 2021, the Legislature once again made it easier for Harrah’s to meet the 2,400-employee minimum by approving a bill allowing the company to count construction employees. 

    Once they got their foot in the door, gambling companies and their lobbyists in Baton Rouge have gradually convinced state lawmakers to expand their games of chance, lower their taxes and relax their rules.

    According to Jim Richardson, the state’s pre-eminent public policy economist. gambling revenue to the state has remained virtually flat since 2007. if you figure in inflation, it has actually dropped by 27%. There is no more blood to get out of the gambling turnip.  This in spite of all the additional forms of gambling approved by the state.  Louisiana needs to look elsewhere for revenue. Or reign in spending.  Or both.

    Disapproval By Local Law Enforcement Officials.

    In a press conference on June 29, Slidell Police Chief Randy Fandal and St. Tammany Sheriff Randy Smith said they are very worried about the crime the casino might bring.  These officials say an FBI study shows casinos bring in crime, prostitution, and raise suicide rates and they say that’s not what St. Tammany needs.


    From those that I speak with around the parish, it seems like one of the highest, if not the highest concern is the increase in crime.  If this is the case, it seems like voting for a Casino in Slidell is tht last thing one would want to do.  After all, the two most prominent law enforcement officials in the Parish have come out publicly and said in no uncertain terms "Don't do this.  It is a mistake."


    Promises of Sugarplums Dancing In Our Heads


    Peninsula Pacific Entertainment (PPE) is currently in a full-court press marketing campaign to convince the voters of the Slidell area to approve the relocation of their Casino license from Bossier City to Slidell.  They have money and they are spending it.  You may have received one of their glossy brochures touting all the benefits to the people of Slidell including a marina and a new multi-purpose athletic complex.


    This is the same PPE who closed their casino in Bossier City because of declining revenue and left the area looking worse than a town with an abandoned Wal-Mart.   Based on their track record, why should we believe any of their promises.  And based on the track record of broken promises from the state government with respect to gambling, why would we trust anything when it comes to gambling.  Some of the things that PPE promises will just disappear because they will not be in the law.  And no problem for those things that PPE finds to be "burdensome"  bit are not in the law. They will just call on the gambling-friendly Louisiana legislature.


    Any way that I look at it, it seems like a bad deal for St. Tammany Parish and Slidelll.  I would love to know how you see it.







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    The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered on June 26, 2021 for the 13th Sunday in Ordinary time year B at St. Luke the Evangelist Church in Slidell.  The scripture readings on which this is based can be found at this link.


    Life is a very uncertain thing.   No matter how much we plan and how much we think we are in control, the truth is that we cannot be certain what is going to happen tomorrow, much less what next month or next year are going to look like.  Although he did not coin the phrase  Ben Franklin is often quoted as having said “ it is impossible to be certain of anything but Death and Taxes.”  

    In light of my many health struggles, I find one of this topic so upsetting, so disturbing that it is almost impossible for me to talk about.  I start to tear up.  So as to not cause an upset here in the Church, I will never, ever preach about … Taxes.   However, death… that’s a different story.  As people of faith, we should be regularly contemplating our own mortality and future deaths in light of the Christian message of salvation.   We should be comfortable with the discussion of death and should  grow to accept that it is not something to be feared, but to be understood and embraced as part of our destiny.

    In today’s Gospel, Jesus raises a little girl back to life. The raising of Jairus' daughter is meant to bring up the themes of life and death and life and after death - themes that lie at the heart of the Christian message of salvation. In the last two weeks of Gospel readings, Jesus shows that he has power over nature (the wind and the sea), over sickness, and over death.  So what do we have to fear? Why is this topic so difficult for Christians?  Even though Jesus raised Jairus’ daughter, she died again, all the apostles died, you and I will die.  It is a certainty.

     Most of us do not deal well with death. We avoid going to wakes and funerals .  We don’t know what to do or say.  We do not regularly speak of it in our homes, so our children and grandchildren never learn how to feel, or what to do or say when someone known by the family dies. Yet, we should not only be talking about death, but we contemplate our own deaths regularly.  Let’s see what scripture has to say about that.

     From Ecclesiastes 7:4 “Someone who is always thinking about happiness is a fool. A wise person thinks about death.”

     Book of Sirach: “In whatever you do, remember your last days, and you will never sin” (Sirach 7:36)

     Memento mori (Latin: "remember that you will die") is an ancient Christian spiritual reflection on one’s mortality. It reminds one of the passing, brief nature of this life which ultimately, should, mean nothing to us.  Memento Mori used to be very common and generally encouraged.  Now we only hear about it for 10 seconds a year…on Ash Wednesday – “Remember you are dust and to dust you shall return.” In the last 150 years life expectancy has risen in the US from 39 years to almost 80 years, so death seems so far away for most.  And in a culture that is obsessed with youth and looking young, death has become almost a taboo topic.

     For the Saints, however, death was always in the front of their minds. Many kept skulls in their bedrooms as a constant reminder of their mortality. The image of the skull also has been represented in depictions of many saints, including St. Jerome, St. Aloysius, and St. Francis, who used skulls in their spiritual reflection. And keep in mind that the feast days that we celebrate for saints are memorials of their deaths, the day that they were born into eternal life.

     There are those who insist that all talk of skulls, and bones, and death is morbid and should be avoided at all costs.   This point of view is mainly caused by fear. As Christians we need not be fearful of anything, including our own mortality.

     What is the benefit of contemplating our own death? It is related to what we refer to in the Church as the Last Four Last Things: death, judgment, heaven and hell. No one can avoid death or judgement and our choices in this life determine if we will experience heaven or hell. Daily remembrance of this reality is not morbid; it is actually life-giving, because it reminds us to live well and prepares us to die well. 

     What is our homework? I suggest two things this week.  If  the subject of death is on the taboo list in your home, that needs to change.  You, your children and grandchildren need to become comfortable with the subject of death from a Christian perspective – as the day we are born into eternal life.    Second, memento mori – remember your death.

     Unfortunately, there is no perfect formula for the meditation on death. And how you do it from day to day will vary. However, in just a few short minutes, here is one way you could go about it. First, think something along the lines of, I could die at any time. I could die today…tomorrow… next week Am I ready to meet the Lord?  If not, it is never too late, not matter what.

     Second, imagine yourself on your deathbed or dying suddenly. As you think about death’s inevitability and imagine it, allow your mind to think about it as a real event, not just to think about it in a detached way.

     Third, after you use your mind to think about this reality,  lift your heart in prayer. Whatever comes up during your short meditation on death, bring it to God. Listen to what he has to say in response to any anxiety and fear that you might experience.

     However you might chose to meditate on death, it is important to remember that, for the Christian, prayer is key. Christians do not meditate on death as a dark, dismal end. Jesus died for our sins, saving us from death. In the Christian context, the light of Christ streams through the darkness of death and fills it with the hope of heaven.

     God created us for life, to become beautiful, to become more and more like him, until eventually we leave this world and are united to him for always.  That is our destiny, this is something on which you can be certain.


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  3.  The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered on March 24, 2021 at St Luke the Evangelist Church in Slidell, LA for the 5th Sunday in Lent, Year B.  The scripture readings on which is this is based can be found at this link.



    It was hiding in plain sight. Have you ever heard this before?  It means that something that seemed to be hidden was actually out in the open.  For whatever reason, we just fail to see it. For example, in the Baskins-Robbins logo, there is a clearly the number 31 hidden in plain sightIf you look at the pink parts of the letters “B” and “R” you’ll see “31.”  The number refers to their early days when their claim to fame was a different flavor for each day of the month and their marketing jingle was 31derful flavors. 

    Speaking of logos, something that I never noticed until preparing this homily is the white space in the FedEx logo. Hidden in plain view between the E and the X is an arrow, representing speed, accuracy,  perfection, and perseverance. If you have never noticed it, the next time you see a FedEx truck or package, take a good look. 


    And finally, have you ever had the experience of frantically looking for something around your house? Think of your keys, glasses, wallet or phone.  Maybe you looked 10 or 15 minute or more.  And then suddenly you find them in a place where you know you looked a half dozen times?  If so, you are not alone.  It is due to phenomenon called “traveling brain waves” where your eyes may pass in front of something, but it does not actually register in the brain. 


    There may be many things around us that we just overlook, that are right in front of us and we do not see.  And that is OK. But as Christians it is of utmost importance to each of us that Jesus Christ is not hiding in plain sight.  


    As you heard at the start of Mass, today is the 5th Sunday in Lent. You will notice some things in the Church that are hiding in plain sight. I am referring to the statues and the cross that are veiled in anticipation of the evening of Holy Thursday.  Did you ever wonder why we do this? Until 1969today was the beginning of a season within the season of Lent called the Passiontide. The Passion account of our Lord was read on this Sunday, Palm Sunday and Monday to Wednesday of Holy Week. The Sunday gospel had this concluding sentence: “But Jesus hid Himself and left the temple.   So among other things, the "hidden" statues and cross bring to mind that verse from the Gospel.


    We no longer call this season with Lent Passiontide. The readings for this Sunday have changed. But the veiling of crosses highlights in a dramatic way, the thirst of the Greeks who wanted to see our Lord at the beginning of today’s gospel. They approach Philip and request Sir, we would like to see Jesus.” 


    Why did these Gentiles want to see Jesus? They probably heard reports about the Lord, such as Him raising  Lazarus from the dead and wanted to see him perform more “tricks” so to speak. During that time people looked for Him for many different reasons. The Scribes and the Pharisees wanted to trap Him in their theological quarrels. The Elders and the Chief Priests were always looking for Him to find an excuse to have him executed. The sick looked for Him in search of healing and consolation. Mary Magdalene looked for Him in search of forgiveness.   All that is well and good, but the questions you should be contemplating are am I looking for Jesus?  For what reason? What do I expect? 


    There is in the heart of every human being a natural desire for God. As St. Augustine wrote in his Confessions “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in You.”  Perhaps Augustine’s most often quoted phrase, it captures something that touches the heart and soul of everyone. This thirst for God is felt by everybody, whether they know it or not.   


    For many of us, the desire becomes stronger when we are in trouble. In times of doubt, anguish, fear, serious illness, or pain, we might pray all the more for Jesus to reveal himself.  Many of us want to see Jesus only because we want Him to solve our problems and, possibly, make our lives easier. But Jesus is not the genie in the lamp that you can rub and have him do your bidding and then send Him out of sight when all is well.  


    We sometimes fail to see Christ either because we do not seek Him or because like the person who looks for their keys in plain sight, he is in front of our eyes but does not register.  If we are looking for Jesus for the wrong reasons, chances are that we will be disappointed, because we may not find Him. 


    This brings us to our homework.  How can I see Jesus in the little time there is left in Lent?  Even if we have done nothing for Lent so far, it is not too late.  Almsgiving, one of the 3 pillars of Lent is one way.  Jesus is all around … in the sick, the poor, the hungry… but like those who never saw the arrow in the FedEx logo, we looked right past Him. Take your time, money or both and do what Jesus said to do. “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” 


    If you want to see Jesus, then read the Scriptures frequently and devoutly, for as St Jerome tells us, “ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ.”  Two years ago, in a homily I gave everyone a challenge to read the entire Bible in a year. I gave out a method to do this in just 15 minutes a day.  3 people that I know of completed this challenge and all told me that afterwards they saw Jesus in a completely new light. Want to see Jesus.  Read the scripture. 


     But most of all, we encounter Him in the flesh, truly, really, substantially, soul and divinity in the Blessed Sacrament of the Eucharist. If you want to see Jesus, receive the Eucharist worthilyreverently and frequently, for as the Catechism says, “the Eucharist is the source and summit of the Christian life.” 


    And finally, visit him in the Adoration Chapel. You will find that He is in plain, and not hiding at all. 

     

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    The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered on January 24, 2021 at St. Luke the Evangelist Church in Slidell for the 3rd Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year B. The scripture readings on which this is based can be found by clicking this link.


     


    In a Business Insider article entitled “16 People Who Worked Incredibly Hard to Succeed” the author wrote about people who did hard things to reach their goals.   People like Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz who works at the office 13 hours a day and then at home until the wee hours of the night. Then there is sisters Venus and Serena Williams who at 7 and 8 years old were up at 6 AM every day hitting tennis balls. Or Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban. When starting his first company, he routinely stayed up until two in the morning reading about new software and went seven years without a day off or a vacation.

    Just as worldly endeavors require hard things to be successful, as Christians we daily must do hard things to follow Christ.

    In today’s Gospel, we find Jesus inviting two sets of brothers, Simon Peter and Andrew and James and John to become his followers.  Notice that according to Mark everyone abandoned everything and started following Jesus.   If we really stop and think about this scene, we will quickly realize how difficult this had to have been for them.  Neither set of brothers were just weekend fisherman who took their boats out on Lake Pontchartrain for the weekend hoping to fill their ice chests with speckled trout or redfish.   These were professional fisherman. Their livelihoods were dependent on them catching fish.   And other people depended on them.

    We know from the Gospel of Luke that Peter was married and to some extent took care of his mother-in-law.   It is likely that Peter and Andrew had some employees.   Yet they just left everything when Jesus said to them “Come after me and I will make you fishers of men.”     We also know that James and John were in the fishing business with their father Zebedee and that they had employees.  Remember we heard in the Gospel “So they left their father Zebedee in the boat along with the hired men and followed him.”

    So here we have four men, in the prime of their working careers, leaving their lives and livelihoods to follow along with Jesus.  They had no income and no means of support.  They just followed.  How hard must that have been?

    No harder than for any of us who are called to follow Jesus.  Let’s look at some of the hard things that Jesus tells us to do. To be true followers of Christ, here are just a few of the hard things we must do.

    From Luke 6 “But to you who hear I say, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.”   Extremely hard to do, agree?

    From Matthew 10: “He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; “Here Scripture tells us that we must love Jesus more than anyone else, including our close family. How many of us really do this?

    Here is a really, really hard one.    From the Gospel of John, Chapter 6, Jesus is preaching to the crowd that he is the bread of life.  They are murmuring and saying under their breath that this is impossible.  Listen now to a few key verses. At verse 54 Jesus says:

    “Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him on the last day. For my flesh is true food, and my blood is true drink.”

    Skipping down a few verses, John writes “Then many of his disciples who were listening said, “This saying is hard; who can accept it?”   Notice the word “hard”.  Jesus is asking his own disciples to do something that they think is hard.   Skipping down a few more verses John continues: “As a result of this, many [of] his disciples returned to their former way of life and no longer accompanied him.”   Jesus tells them that they must eat his flesh and drink his blood.  Many disciples thought this teaching too hard to follow.  They left. And Jesus does not run after them and tell them he was speaking figuratively.   He lets them go.

    The Church has taught from the beginning that after the priests speaks the words of consecration and the Holy Spirit comes down upon the bread and wine, the substance of those gifts changes and become truly the body, blood soul and divinity of Jesus. They look like bread and wine, they taste like bread and wine, they smell like bread and wine.  But they are no longer.  Not a symbol, not a memorial, but the real thing.  Believing in the real presence of Jesus in the Eucharist is a hard thing to do.  But it is the central and foremost belief of the Catholic Church. Quoting Pope Benedict from a homily in June of 2011 “Without the Eucharist, the Church simply does not exist” One more time “Without the Eucharist, the Church simply does not exist.” 

    This is the first of a series of homilies that you will hear during this Year of the Eucharist. These homilies will look at various aspects of Eucharistic teaching and beliefs. For homework, I would like everyone to contemplate and reflect on where you are in your belief in the real presence considering what I am about to tell you.

    A poll from 2019 reported that only 1/3 of Catholics believe in the Real Presence of Jesus in the Eucharist.  That number is shocking to me. Virtually 100% of people who present themselves for Holy Communion, after being presented the Eucharist and they hear “The Body of Christ” they respond …. Amen. …  I believe. Without a doubt.   What is even more shocking to me is an interview with the late Fr Benedict Groeschel I heard many years ago.  He said that on the streets of New York, a consecrated host goes for $100 or more.  They are purchased by Satan worshippers to be desecrated at a so-called Black Mass and in other ways.  Not only do nearly 100% of Satan worshippers believe in the real presence of Jesus in the Eucharist, but some of them can actually tell which hosts are consecrated and which are not.  Fr. Groeschel readily admits “How they know, I have no idea. But they know.”

    As you can tell, something is really wrong with this.  Only 1/3 of Catholics believe in the real presence while virtually 100% of Satan worshippers do.

    Being a follower of Christ can be really hard. Way harder than working 20 hours or waking at 6 AM to hit tennis balls. Love Him more than your family. Believe in the Eucharist.   Turn the other cheek. Do good to those who hate you. Can you drop whatever nets in your life are holding you back because Jesus is calling you to follow Him?

     

     


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  5.  The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered at St. Luke the Evangelist Church for the Feast of the Holy Family on December 27, 2020

    A few years ago, I read what was supposed to be a funny story. There is a grammar school that puts on an over-the-top Nativity play each year. They always have a line of people trying out for almost all of the parts – but few for the role of the innkeeper. The role is very small, the costume is not very interesting, and the inn keeper is looked at as the Grinch or Ebenezer Scrooge

    This particular year, only 1 person, a 3rd grade boy tried out. He of course got the role.  He did great in rehearsals.  But, when it came time for his line in the actual play, after Joseph knocks on the door and asks for a place to stay. The little boy, answers, “No, I am really, really sorry, but we don’t have any room. But you and your wife look really tired. Why don’t you come in and rest your feet and have a cup of coffee.”

    Well that brought down the house. Everyone was roaring with laughter. But after meditating over this story, you may realize, as I did, something very important. This boy must live in a household with an extraordinary amount of love and compassion, a modern-day Holy Family.

    As a people of faith, we can help transform society by making our family a modern-day Holy Family

    The brings the question of what is means to be a holy family front and center.  In the 2nd reading from Paul - there is a paragraph that always raises eyes. When Paul writes the following

    “Wives, be subordinate to your husbands, as is proper in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and avoid any bitterness toward them.”

    - what does he mean? Paul explains this same thing in more detail in the 5th chapter of the letter to the Ephesians when he writes that Wives should be subordinate to their husbands, and that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the Church. What did Christ do for the Church? He laid down his very life. So are modern husbands called to lay down their lives for their wives.

    The same holds true relationship between children and parents. Children, as we heard in first reading from Sirach, are called to honor, love and respect their parents. This does not just apply to young children as they grow up in the parent's home, but to adults as their parents age and have difficulty taking care of themselves. The converse is also true – parents are admonished not to nag or be overbearing to your children.

    We are called to mutual love in our families between husband, wife, and children in a manner that reflects the Holy Family. It is the same manner as the extraordinary love in the Trinity, where the love between the Father, Son, brings forth the Holy Spirit.  In a sense, a holy family, your family can be an icon of the blessed trinity for all the world to see and to imitate.


     There are many beautiful works, by great artists that depict the Holy family as perfect - perfectly clean, well dressed, and well groomed.  I am sure that you have seen this portrayal on holy cards as well as Christmas greeting cards. This depiction of perfection in art had its purpose, but also sets an unrealistic view for us as we strive to model our families on the Holy Family.

    The Holy family had problems just as each of us do. To name just a few: The Blessed Virgin Mary in her ninth month of pregnancy had to either walk or ride on the back of a donkey about 90 miles to take part in a census. That is the distance from Slidell to Baton Rouge, 9 months pregnant.  Ladies, can you imagine doing that?

    When they arrived at their destination there was no kind innkeeper like the little 3rd grader to invite them in for a cup of coffee. Mary had to give birth in a stable. Take a deep breath and think about what it smells like?

    We know that the Holy Family was poor. The offering that was made at the presentation of our Lord was that of a poor family. What family among does not have or has not had financial issues to deal with?

    And finally, after living a life of difficulties and sacrifices, the Holy Family experiences what many would consider the two worst things that can happen in a family - the death of a spouse and then finally, Mary faces what is the ultimate pain for most parents, the loss of her child.  Our God is empathetic to our everyday struggle to be a Holy Family because He has lived those very same struggles that we do. 

    In the early days of the Church, the world was not much different than it is today.  There was rampant immorality,  crime, world-wide disease and corrupt leaders. Yet, over time, Christians changed the world.  The change came not through force, but by the holiness of individual Christians, and the holiness of the families. People saw how Christians lived their lives.  It was so different from the world that people looked in from the outside and thought “Wow! I want to be part of that.”

     If having a perfect life does not make us imitators of the Holy Family, then what? How are we to become imitators of the Holy Family and thereby transform our culture one family at a time? That is for your homework.

    Go home today and start making your family more perfect. Spend as much time together as possible. Love your family generously and deeply.  A family that disappears into their separate rooms watching their separate TVs just cannot represent the love of the Trinity. Neither can a family where everyone has their own activities and hobbies that they do separately.  Play games together. Go hunting, fishing, play music, swimming or whatever it is you do. Eat meals together. Talk to one another about your deepest hopes and fears.  And of course, pray together.

    Some of you who live alone, have no children or family relationships might be thinking that this homily has nothing to do with you.  But people, made in the image of God, are made for community. Having a family relationship does not require that you be a close blood relative. Seek out community with whom to form that family relationship. It could be here at Church, in your neighborhood, or with those you consider close friends.

    And finally, for those that already have strong families, if there is room in your heart, why not prayerfully consider inviting someone who is alone to participate in the life of your family?  It can start with something simple, like offering a cup of coffee and a place for someone to rest their weary feet.


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  6. The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered the weekend of November 14 -15 at St Luke the Evangelist Church in Slidell.  The scripture readings on which this is based can be found at this link 





    Fear is defined on Websters.com as “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.. “    .  According to one authoritative list, the # 1 fear in the world is that of spiders.  #2 is snakes. Those are not surprising to me, but some were.  #17 is Alektorophobia, the fear of chickens.  #63 is Bananaphobia – yes, the fear of bananas!

    Half way between fear of chickens and fear of bananas, 1t #31 is Theophobia, an irrational fear of God.  Theophobia is being afraid of God in the same way that people are afraid of spiders and snakes. It is a paralyzing fear, a fear that makes God into a threat.

    Theophobia is not what scripture refers to as fear of God or fear of the Lord.  For people of faith, the fear of the Lord is loving him so very much that you cannot bear the thought of offending Him.

    St Thomas Aquinas wrote about different kinds of fear - worldly, servile and filial. Worldly fear is simple emotional fear. Worldly fear can be healthy and good. God gave us fear to warn us against danger. This is the fear you might feel if a vicious wild animal was running at you with teeth flashing. This fear would tell you to get away and save yourself. Worldly fear to the extreme, becomes a phobia, paralyzing you and causing you to be unable to react sensibly.

     Servile Fear is fear that a servant has toward his master. We will hear more about this in a minute.  It’s the fear of being punished, like the fear of spending eternity in hell.  That is not what God wants for us, but it can play a role in our salvation. Fear of the punishment of Hell is also known as imperfect contrition.  This is the type of fear that I had when I did something bad and my mother would say “wait until your father gets home!” Again, servile fear of God is not necessarily a bad thing, but if we are stuck there, we should take a hard look at our spiritual lives and our image of God and try to understand why we see God as a punishing master.

    Filial Fear is the fear that we have of losing that which most important in our lives – our relationships.  This is primarily the kind of fear that the Holy Spirit moves within us through the Gift of Fear of the Lord. The fear of the Lord is the most extreme type of filial fear. It is reverential awe, love and respect toward God combined with obedience to God’s will.

    In the first reading we heard from Proverbs about the qualities of a great wife.  Notice it does not say that the most witty, charming, and attractive woman makes the best wife. Recall what we just heard Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

    ‘Blessed are those who fear the Lord.”  is what we heard over and over in the responsorial psalm. Both the first reading and the responsorial psalm are referring to the extreme of filial fear – the love of God so strong in us, that we fear offending him or hurting him in any way.

    Today’s Gospel makes mention of fear.  Just for a little background, although we do not know the exact amount, the “Talents” that Jesus referred are worth about 15 years wages. If we assume for discussion purposes that $50k in today’s dollars is an average annual wage , then the master gave out $3.75 million, $1.5 million, and $750k to the 3 servants.  This is a lot of money, not really a small matter in worldly terms as Jesus says in the parable.

    The servant of least ability who received the one talent, buried his $750k for fear of being punished for losing it.  The type of fear that the lazy servant experience was paralyzing servile fear.  Instead of praising him for being safe, the master is outraged.  Think about it… if you entrusted a lump sum of $750,000 to an investment advisor, and 30 years later he dug your principal up out the ground and returned it to you, would you not also be outraged?

     I hope you see that the fear of the Lord is quite different from being afraid of God. Unfortunately, it is obvious by what we see transpiring around us in our society that the reverential fear of God is rapidly declining.  People no longer even have servile fear of God, because the popular belief is becoming “Everyone goes to heaven”, right?  If there is no hell, then what is to fear?

    What is for your homework

    The first assignment is to parents, godparents and grandparents. It is time to re-instill the fear of the Lord in your children.  This must be a  reverential fear, a love God so very much that we fear offending him the smallest bit. And please, do not ever, ever, ever tell them “God is going to get you for that” when they do something wrong. This kind of talk can put the wrong image of God in their minds forever.  Instead, use it as an opportunity to remind them of how much God loves them and because we love him back, we never want to offend him.

    Finally, I challenge each of is to look at our own lives to see if the Gift of Fear of the Lord working. Do you feel sorrow for your sins because you have offended God or because you might go to hell? Are you overwhelmed with wonder when you think about God, heaven, and the spiritual world? Are you struck with your own unworthiness of the great gift of his love and grace? 

    If not, it is never  too late to do something about it? After all, what are you afraid of?


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  7.  The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered for the 19th Sunday of Ordinary time Year A.  The readings on which this homily are based can be found at this link

    On the 8th grade, basketball team, I was making about 20% of my free throws. In one game, I missed all 13 free throws. That was the last straw for my coach. He made me shoot 100 free throws or 10 made ones in a row after every practice. I almost always shot the hundred.  But I did get a lot better, making about 65%.  The average NBA player makes about 70%. However, there are a few elite who do much better.

    Steve Nash is the leading retired NBA free throw shooter with a nearly 91% lifetime average. Over his career, Mr. Nash attempted 3378 free throws and made 3054.  He did this by developing a great technique through practice – shooting tens of thousands of free throws. He developed remarkable concentration, keeping his eye on the goal, despite all sorts of distractions. If you have seen any pro or college games, you will have noticed the big noodles that get waved while someone is shooting, as well as the screaming and mechanical noisemakers. Yet Steve Nash was always able to tune out the distractions.  As people of faith, we can learn a lesson from great free throw shooters like Steve Nash.  We need to practice keeping our eyes on Jesus and learn to block out the distractions.

    Today’s Gospel occurs on the Sea of Galilee right after Jesus feeds the 5000. The Apostles are in a small boat. It is “the fourth watch of the night.” - around 3 AM. On the Sea of Galilee, winds come down from the mountains in the east and cause terrible and sudden storms, with waves over 10 feet high. Imagine what the water of Lake Pontchartrain looks like with huge white caps and this is our scene.

    Peter sees Jesus walking out on the water but like the others is not sure. Maybe it is some sort of Spirit. Good ole impulsive Peter – Hey Lord if it’s you command me to come.  Peter leaps out of the boat and starts walking to the Lord.  Everything seems fine but then Peter gets distracted.  I imagine he started looking around, noticing the winds and the waves, and was started thinking something like “What in this world am I doing!?”  He took his eye of Jesus.  His trust in Jesus faltered momentarily and he got in trouble.

    Jesus tells Peter “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?”  But Peter certainly had faith.  He had participated in feeding the multitude, the day before he had seen Jesus cure many sick people. And he not only expressed his faith in Jesus by challenging him to let him walk on the water, but then he leaps out of the relative safety of the boat to walk on the rolling waves! Yes, he had faith. More than I would likely have in that situation.  I would have likely said something more like “Lord if it’s you come join me in the boat”  Peter’s trust in Jesus falters momentarily and he forgets that Jesus is the one who is in control, just for a split second.  Even Peter’s reaction when he started sinking was an expression of faith Lord save me!   Jesus’ mild rebuke of Peter could be Jesus equating a small lapse in faith like Peter had with “little faith”.

    As Christians, we may be doing fine in our walk of faith.  But then, we get distracted. It is not basketball fans with noisemakers and white noodles.  We get distracted with the storms that are going on around us, and we begin to sink.  And there are many storms – family illnesses, loss of income, COVID, elections, you name it.  Sometimes doesn’t it seem that we go from storm to storm to storm in our lives. Somewhere in this very church there are people facing great storms. Maybe it is you, maybe the person sitting near you.  Keep your eyes up and focused on Jesus. Because when you look down, all you may see is the hardship. And you sink

    Sometimes it is not the storms that distract us.  It is just what we consider the “normal” things in everyday life.  We allow our time to get filled with work, obligations to family and friends, our children’s activities, social media, following the Saints or some other sports teams, or other hobbies. We become so distracted by all these things that we only see Jesus in a passing glance.  Maybe you are one of the fortunate ones. You have dream job, a lovely house, your family is great, you are in great health with plenty of money saved for retirement and a good pension.  All is so good that  we take our eyes off of Jesus.  We feel like we are in control, on top of the world. In reality, none of us are in control. Control is an illusion.  God is in control. Life circumstances can change in an instant.

    Today’s Gospel tells us that when the storm comes up and things seem their darkest that Jesus is close. We just need to keep our eyes on him. When the Apostles invited Jesus into their boat, the storms subsided, and the winds calmed down. So, it also is with us.  When we invite Jesus into our lives our storms will calm down.  Not that bad or unpleasant things will not happen to us – I assure you that they will. Bad things happen to good people all the time. But with our eyes focused on Christ, we can have, as St Paul wrote to the Philippians, the peace that surpasses all understanding – regardless of the storms going on around us.

    What is your homework?

    Just like Steve Nash practiced his free throw shooting every day, we must daily practice keeping our focus on Jesus so that we can perfect it. It does not happen without effort.  Your homework this week is to look up, keep your eyes on Jesus. Here are some simple suggestions

    First, take a serious look at your problems and bring them to Jesus in prayer. See in whatever problems that you may have, an opportunity to keep your focus on Jesus, to turn over all to him, to acknowledge that He is in control.

     Start practicing frequent and regular prayer. How about for this week setting your alarm on the hour for 8 hours each day and say this simple prayer “My Jesus I trust in you". Practice, practice, practice

    If there are things in your life – activities, television shows, hobbies, friendships -whatever they might be – that are distracting you from your relationship with Jesus, it is time for you to change them or rid yourself of them.  We will not make our life’s goal, everlasting life with Jesus, if we allow distractions to keep us away from him in this life.

    On final thing as we prepare to approach Jesus in the Eucharist, an old custom that seems to have faded away – every time you pass a Catholic Church, make the sign of the cross acknowledging your belief in the real presence and giving homage to Jesus just like the apostles did when Jesus entered the boat.

    Practice. Keep focused. Practice some more.  It applies to free throw shooting. And it applies to your relationship with Jesus.


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  8. The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered at St. Luke the Evangelist Church for the 16th Sunday in Ordinary time, Year A.   The scripture reading on which this is based can be found at this link.



    In 1948, a medical student named Bernie coerced his girlfriend to have an abortion, which were illegal at the time. He paid for it out of his own pocket. His own child!  Somehow in some twisted way, this must have been a positive experience for him as he decided to become an OB/GYN. He also became crusader for the legalization of abortion and would himself become an abortionist. Not just ANY abortionist. He was a significant contributor to the passage of the infamous Roe V Wade Supreme Court Decision. By his own estimate, he presided over more than 60,000 abortions, instructed medical students in the performance of about 15,000 more and performed 5,000 abortions himself. In one of those abortions, he took the life of his own child conceived with yet another girlfriend.

    By 1980, with the widespread use of prenatal ultrasound rising, he became convinced that a pro-life position was the only right one. He spent the rest of his life as a pro-life crusader. He grew up as a self-described  "Jewish atheist". In 1996 he converted to Catholicism through the friendship of one Catholic, Fr. John McCloskey. When, Bernie, better known as Dr Bernard Nathanson died, his funeral was celebrated in New York’s St. Patrick Cathedral where he was hailed as one of the giants in the pro-life movement.  For people of faith, Dr. Nathanson’s life is a reminder to all of us that we should be extremely slow to judge people

    In today’s Gospel, we hear the parable of the wheat and the weeds. Jesus explained it, so I do not think that I can explain this better than God himself!

    Instead, let us look at some lessons that we can learn from this parable that apply to our lives today.  Why are the weeds and wheat hard to tell apart?  The people who originally heard this parable would have known the particular weed of which Jesus was speaking. It has the long botanical name, typically known as darnel or “false wheat.”  Until harvest, it is almost impossible to distinguish the false from the real wheat.

     Isn’t it that way in our lives today? The people who are weeds are very hard to tell apart from those who are wheat. There are weeds all over - in our families, in our government and in our Church.  They put on the appearance of being good and honorable, but it is all just a show.    It is nothing new.  There have been weeds in the world from the beginning. Cain killed Abel and Judas was the treasurer for the Church.  There will always be weeds in our lives.

    Another lesson comes from the question the servants ask the master: "Should we pull out the weeds?"

     The answer goes back to the problem of determining which are the weeds. You could be making a big mistake judging a person as a weed because they drink, are promiscuous, have same sex attraction, have an irregular marriage, or have a drug addiction. St. Mark Ji Tianxiang was a Chinese layman and martyr who was denied Holy Communion for the last 30 years of his life because he could not break his opium habit.  Yet, he willingly gave his life for the faith. And he is now that patron saint for those who are addicted to drugs.  We really never know what is in someone’s heart, what their relationship with the Lord is, or how they are going to turn out.

    Should we pull out the weeds?  This question also strikes at the core of one of the greatest points of confusion in the Church today – what does it mean to judge?  Does “not judging” mean we can no longer oppose evil or point out errors in conduct or morality?   This is absolutely not the case.  God gave us an intellect and hopefully we were formed with right consciences so that we can judge good actions from bad actions.  When we correct a person for their own good, we are doing them a favor.  a spiritual work of mercy – admonishing the sinner. We can—and must—warn others, without hatred, anger, or an air of superiority when they are living in habitual sin.   Just to be completely clear – there is a real and substantial difference between judging someone’s behavior and judging the person. It is not just semantics.

    We must resist the false shame that society inflicts on us by saying that we are being judgmental and intolerant if we speak against blatantly immoral behavior.   And now we are becoming fearful of speaking out against immoral behavior, law and lifestyles for fear of being “cancelled” 

    The parable of the wheat and the weeds forbids us to do what is left to Christ alone: to judge the final disposition of someone’s soul. Will they enter the Kingdom of Heaven or will that soul, by its own choice and actions, be one of the ones as Jesus says today will be tied them in bundles for burning

    The wheat and the weeds is also a parable of mercy; while things will be sorted out someday, the farmer tells his servants to wait until harvest time, leaving maximum time for mercy.  When asked why he converted, of all religions, to Roman Catholicism, Dr. Nathanson stated that "no religion matches the special role for forgiveness that is afforded by the Catholic Church.”

    What is our homework?

    Dr, Nathanson was converted by the friendship and tireless witness of one single Catholic. Most of us have friends and family members who are living a seriously sinful lifestyle. I am sure we could all make a list. We often say nothing to them for the sake of peace, so that we can get along.  Your homework is to decide how from now forward, you are not going to make peace a higher priority than their immortal souls. Instead, you can be that one friend and witness to someone who is ripe for conversion.

    Yes, it is possible to correct poorly. Correcting too much can be seen as nagging. Correcting someone in public can be humiliating and fruitless  However.  if we are honest with ourselves, I think we will find that we usually fail to correct at all rather than over correct.

    And as we prepare to receive Holy Communion, maybe it is a good time for each of us to thank God that he is leaving each of us the maximum time for mercy.

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  9. The following is a close approximation of the homly that I delivered for the 15th Sunday of Ordinary Time Year A. The scripture reading on which this is based can be found at this link


    Some of you know that I have been a gardener for over 50 years.  I grow or have grown flowers, fruit and vegetables.  I grow some interesting things.  I had a magenta and a white gladiolus that accidently crossbred themselves in my garden. They are stunningly beautiful, and I have been caring for them for over 20 years.  Although I can’t be sure, I believe I have one of the few pineapple orchards in St Tammany Parish.   Well, 7 or 8 pineapple plants probably can't actually be called an orchard!  Besides pineapples, I  am currently growing blood oranges, satsumas, blueberries, blackberries, loquats, pomegranates, tomatoes, cucumbers, and various herbs. In the past I have grown, various squash, cantaloupe, watermelons, okra, beans, peppers, garlic, and onions among others.

    While I am by no means an agricultural expert, with all my experience I have developed a few gardening sayings. Here are 2 that you might find helpful .
    “Don’t grow plants that have flowers that make your wife sneeze.”  
    I did that once by planting a hedge of dwarf gardenias.  Bad move, I must say!  After a couple of years, I dug them up and gave them away.

    The most important one is, 
    “its better to plant a $1 plant in a $10 hole than planting a $10 plant in a $1 hole.”   

     In other words, the quality, richness, and condition of the soil is really, really important.  So important for me that I make my own garden soil. No matter how good the seed, plant , or location if the soil is not fertile, plants just will not grow properly.  And for people of faith, for the seed of faith which is the word of God to take root, we must have fertile hearts and minds.

    There are at least two parables in the new Testament that I believe could have better names.  The first is the parable known as the Prodigal Son.  Calling it the Prodigal  puts the emphasis on the son.  The son was a jerk. By asking for his inheritance before his Father had died, he was essentially saying that his father was dead to him.  And he only came home to save his own skin, not out of any real remorse.  The father, on the other hand, must have been out looking over the horizon every day hoping that his son would come home. That is how he saw his son at a distance. What was extraordinary in this parable was the mercy of the father. That parable should really be known as The Merciful Father, 

    The second parable that could have a better name is what we heard in today’s Gospel, the Parable of the Sower.  Depending on the context, the sower could be Jesus or anyone who faithfully preaches the word of God. It could be one of the prophets, me, father, or even you.  There is only one seed, which is the word of God. What are different are the types of soils, the way in which people are disposed when the hear God’s word.

      The first that is described is that hard, beaten down, compacted soil that you would find on a well-traveled path. The person, I will call The Unbeliever. He is described as one who hears the word of God but does not have a clue what any of it means. It just goes right by. 

    Then there is the seed sown on rocky ground.  The person described as follows, I will call the Shallow Person. He hears the word of God and is initially over-joyed with it. But when times get tough, he bails out. I wonder how many of the fallen away Catholics are those with rocky ground?

    There are seeds that fall among the thorns.  These types of people, I will call The Worldly Person.  They hear God’s word but become  full of anxiety and worried about acquiring worldly possessions and becomes choked off. This is the Catholic who you cannot tell is Catholic by the way they live their lives.

    Then there are the seeds that fall on fertile soil.  I will call the person One On Their Way To Sainthood. According to the Gospel, he is “the one who hears the word and understands it, who indeed bears fruit and yields a hundred or sixty or thirtyfold.”  This could be my former Jewish friend Bob, who I helped bring into the Church a few years ago. From the moment he started RCIA until today, he never misses a chance to talk to people about Jesus. He even grew his beard down to the middle of his chest just so that when people asked him “what’s with the beard, you look like Jesus” he could use it as an entrée to evangelize.  His soil is without doubt fertile and he is producing fruit 60 and 100 fold.

    This parable would be better called the Parable of the Soil rather than the Parable of the Sower. It is the heart, mind, and soul represented by the soil that make a difference as to whether the word of God produces no fruit, some fruit, or an abundant harvest.
    In the garden, with the right amount of work,  the proper amendments, with patience and time almost any soil can be transformed into fertile soil.   When it comes to gardening  before adding amendments, you must understand the current condition of the soil.  And for   people hearing the word of God, it is important to understand the condition of the soul.  Here is where your homework comes in.

    What sort of soil are you?  If you are a Person On Their way to Sainthood, and we certainly have some here, that is awesome! But not all of us are,  so I ask you to reflect on the following.

    Am I the Unbeliever? Yes, there are unbelievers who attend Mass every week.  Is being a member of St Luke’s  a social thing or a habit.  Have I allowed sin and pride to close the door of my heart against God? Perhaps I have never really learned the Faith and developed a relationship with Jesus.

    Am I the Shallow Person? Have I failed to nurture the gift of faith through prayer and the sacraments?  Am I a person of prayer? Do I share the gospel with and minister to people God places in my life? Or am I a “cafeteria Catholic” picking and choosing that parts of the faith that I make me feel good, and discarding those that make me even the least bit uncomfortable.

    The Worldly Person—What occupies most of my time - worldly possessions, luxuries, temptations, and worldly desires? Can people who do not know me tell that I am a disciple of Christ or do I blend in with the pagan culture around me?  Are my priorities in order? Do I think I will spend time with God in the life to come when I spend very little time with Him in this life?

    Now is time to look at the condition of our hearts, minds, and souls. Make your amendments. If you are not One Who Is On Their Way to Sainthood, what will it take to get you there?

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  10. The following is a close approximation of the homily I delivered at St. Luke the Evangelist Church in Slidellfor the 14th Sunday of Ordnary Time Year A. The scripture readings on whch this is based can be found at this link.



    When I was growing up fathers in popular culture were generally shown as good examples: good character, tough but gentle, wise, strong, and loving to their children.  One of the dads that comes to mind is Ward Cleaver from Leave it to Beaver. It was one of my favorite shows when I was very young. There were a number of shows even back in the 50’s and 60’s that showed unconventional family situations.All the great dads were not parenting in two parent homes. Lucas McCain from the Rifleman (another of my favorite shows), Sheriff Andy Taylor from the Andy Griffith show and Steve Douglas from My Three Sons were all widowers.  Great dads were not even all biological fathers.  Uncle Phil from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air comes to mind.

    Fast forward to today.  Dads are depicted more like Homer Simpson, passing out drunk or running naked through town.  Or Tony Soprano who had his daughter’s boyfriend whacked. Or complete goofs like Al Bundy from Married with Children.

    85% of incarcerated youth grew up in homes without a father. Research from many sources is clear that children who have the continuous positive involvement of a father or father figure have the best life outcomes. Secular studies show that children who grow up with involved fathers are dramatically better off physically, emotionally, economically, mentally, and socially than a child who grows up without a father. And for people of faith, we must realize that a child’s relationship with their earthly father can dramatically affect their relationship with their heavenly father.

    Throughout the Gospels, Jesus makes more than 150 references to God as a father.  In the short 5 verses of today’s Gospel, Jesus refers to His Father 5 times. For the Jews of that time, this was a new way of addressing God.  Old Testament authors might identify God using qualities of earthly fathers and mothers. But Jesus referred to God using more informal, intimate language. The word Jesus speaks for father is abba, which has been translated as papa, dad, daddy amongst others.   Whatever the best translation, its meaning describes a deep, mutual, loving relationship between father and child.

    In today’s Gospel we also learn about how God is revealed to infants and children more than the wise and learned.  This was a open rebuke to those who considered themselves the wise people in Jewish leadership. To become wise required studying the Torah, learning the law and having a deep understanding of the languages in which this was all written. When would a regular person who toiled from sunup to sundown just to survive have a chance to gain this wisdom?  So, the Scribes, Pharisees, and Rabbis had a monopoly on knowing God. 

    Jesus completely flips this around because He sees that while the wise people may know about God, few actually know him. He states that the way to come to know God is the way a small child learns from his father, this includes  being in Jesus’ presence, following Him, learning from what does imitating His relationship with the Father, much the way an apprentice learns from a master craftsman.

    Some may have a difficult time relating to God as a father. We may project our expectations or experiences of what a father should be, or has been, onto our heavenly Father. A fatherless child who longs for a dad may have a hard time seeing God as capable of filling that role. Others who believe that they must succeed in sports or school to earn a father’s approval may see their relationship with God in a similar way – requiring something on their part for God to love them. And this is completely backwards, for God loves us unconditional for who we are, not what we do. For others, the word father may bring up memories of abuse or neglect. How awful that such a beautiful facet of God’s character is often stained by the sins of human fathers!

    This brings me to our homework. There is a lot this week and it is not easy.

    First, for families. You are being flooded with negative images of fatherhood in movies, commercial and television shows.  Turn off the ones you can.  Use the those that you cannot to have age appropriate discussions with your children about real fatherhood.

    Second. Dads it is time to, as they say to man up. I hope that I have shown that are few roles in our lives more important than our fathers. We must begin to think of our relationship with our children as the models that they are going to take into their relationships with God.  We need to ask ourselves this question: Is my relationship with my children going to help them know God and get to their ultimate goal, heaven? If not, it is never too late to change.

    And for those who are not biological fathers, you are not off the hook. Whether you are a potential dad, an uncle, stepdad, older brother or close family friend, there are enough children without father figures to go around and then some.  A recent survey commissioned by National Public Radio showed that 39% of school aged children do not have a father / father figure in the home and that in some cultures, that number is approaching 80%. It’s time for you to man-up also.

    Finally, mom’s you are not off the hook either. If you want to promote fatherhood in the family, point out to your children positive actions you see from their dad’s efforts to be a good father. Never, ever belittle him or denigrate him in front of your children or to anyone else. If you disagree with their dad’s parenting, take it up with him privately. If he is awkward or not confident in his role as father, set him up with opportunities to succeed.

    As a parent, you have probably received a small taste of how God feels as “our Father in heaven” which we will all pray shortly. When parents gaze the face of their newborn baby, they know they will love the child no matter what. That is what I experience with my children and exactly how God experiences us.


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