tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.comments2023-08-24T05:38:35.171-05:00Deep South DeaconDeacon Paulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comBlogger94125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-21205079531697256282022-03-03T15:06:01.998-06:002022-03-03T15:06:01.998-06:00Harrah's Cherokee Casino Resort selects Harrah...Harrah's Cherokee Casino Resort selects Harrah's Cherokee<br />A $275 million expansion of Harrah's Cherokee Casino Resort in <a href="https://drmcd.com/%ec%95%88%ec%82%b0%ec%97%90-%eb%8c%80%ed%95%9c-%ec%9a%b0%ec%88%98%ed%95%9c%ec%b6%9c%ec%9e%a5%ec%95%88%eb%a7%88%eb%a6%ac%eb%b7%b0.html/" rel="nofollow">안산 출장안마</a> Cherokee, <a href="https://www.jtmhub.com/%ea%b4%91%eb%aa%85%ec%b5%9c%ea%b3%a0%ec%8b%9c%ec%84%a4%ec%b6%9c%ec%9e%a5%eb%a7%88%ec%82%ac%ec%a7%80.html/" rel="nofollow">광명 출장샵</a> N.C. will add <a href="https://drmcd.com/%ec%95%88%ec%96%91%ec%a3%bc%eb%b3%80-%ea%b0%80%ea%b9%8c%ec%9a%b4%ec%b6%9c%ec%9e%a5%eb%a7%88%ec%82%ac%ec%a7%80.html/" rel="nofollow">안양 출장마사지</a> nearly 1,200 <a href="https://www.mapyro.com/%ea%b4%91%eb%aa%85%ec%b6%9c%ec%9e%a5%ec%95%88%eb%a7%88%ea%b0%80%ec%9d%b4%eb%93%9c.html/" rel="nofollow">광명 출장마사지</a> hotel rooms, <a href="https://drmcd.com/%ea%b0%95%eb%a6%89%ec%b5%9c%ec%83%81%ec%9d%98-%ea%b4%80%eb%a6%ac%ec%b6%9c%ec%9e%a5%eb%a7%88%ec%82%ac%ec%a7%80.html/" rel="nofollow">강릉 출장안마</a> 1,300tamirwagemannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00701817108904787173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-688230283986535262021-10-30T11:59:30.932-05:002021-10-30T11:59:30.932-05:00I agree with you Deacon Paul, I don't see it w...I agree with you Deacon Paul, I don't see it working out anywhere near the way they are saying it is going to be. I'm concerned about the crime it will bring and what it will do to families that have members with gambling problems.<br /><br />I'm getting a brochure at least once a week and sometimes twice. I have already decided to stash one in my desk to compare it with what they actually build. I suspect it won't even come close to what we will end up seeing. <br /><br />Just think, in five or ten years, we'll have our own version of Jazzland in our backyard. Won't that be fun?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13120955675266007598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-40348942421020261902021-06-28T14:33:10.346-05:002021-06-28T14:33:10.346-05:00Great homily Paul. Glad you got the chance to prea...Great homily Paul. Glad you got the chance to preach.Marinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02901545278651133630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-68359190174721355082019-11-05T09:38:00.341-06:002019-11-05T09:38:00.341-06:00Thank you anonymous
Thank you anonymous<br />Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-26895115609514107572019-08-20T09:30:10.821-05:002019-08-20T09:30:10.821-05:00Thank you Mark
Thank you Mark <br />Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-31171483303765462912019-08-19T14:47:31.339-05:002019-08-19T14:47:31.339-05:00Wish I would have heard this one 'live'..I...Wish I would have heard this one 'live'..I liked it Deacon Paul! Thanks for your ministry.MarkPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509888371771425308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-52492858346747739122019-05-20T16:01:52.729-05:002019-05-20T16:01:52.729-05:00John
When Jesus said - "Judge not lest you b...John<br /><br />When Jesus said - "Judge not lest you be judged" he was referring to the state of someone<br />soul, i.e are they bound for heaven or hell. He never said not to judge bad actions. In fact we SHOULD as Christians, judge bad actions as bad. Murder is bad, slander is bad, rape is bad, abortion is bad. If we can't judge bad actions, how can we repent and help others repent. <br /><br />The apostle Paul said, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God” 1Cor 6:9-10. Sounds pretty judgmental to me.<br /><br />I will re-iterate what I wrote 6 years ago - good intentions do not justify bad actions.<br />Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-88089106648681099212019-05-06T12:58:57.832-05:002019-05-06T12:58:57.832-05:00As Christians, it is neither our job nor place to ...As Christians, it is neither our job nor place to judge the actions of others, only to spread the message of God and the Salvation that Jesus Christ brings to all those who accept Him as the Son of God. We, as Christians are not to condemn others of their behaviors and choices in life, only pray for them and lead by example with our own actions.<br /><br />I applied for a position at Hooters as a cook. I have been through a lot and made poor choices because I turned my back on God’s Word for many years. I lost my drivers license and have had a hard time finding work close enough to home. Now I have an opportunity to work and to do so with commitment and dignity through and for Him. Through my dedication and service to God, my actions will reflect positively to all those I work with and deal with. <br /><br />Although the business model of Hooters is used to cater to a particular segment of society; unmarried men, young men who may have difficulty meeting women, sports people who enjoy the fun atmosphere Hooters provides, and also families who aren’t particularly Christian. We as Christians can find God’s work in everything, as long as we stay focused on Him, and not judge or criticize others.<br /><br />Our example, regardless of where we find ourselves in life and where we work, is the only way others can maybe, just maybe, come to believe.<br /><br />Johnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-6369092327454939512019-02-06T12:38:26.333-06:002019-02-06T12:38:26.333-06:00Unknown,
You are correct in your observation that...Unknown,<br /><br />You are correct in your observation that I did not mention the emotional pain that the wife goes through. While very, very true, that was not the purpose of the original post. As my most read and most commented post ever, I can see that this has struck a nerve and probably merits follow-up that includes that topic.<br /><br />God BlessDeacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-58536181249591026172019-01-26T15:24:36.051-06:002019-01-26T15:24:36.051-06:00Deacon,
You mentioned nothing about the emotional...Deacon,<br /><br />You mentioned nothing about the emotional pain the WIFE goes through. The devaluation of HER. The one promised by the offender that he would forsake all others. <br /><br />It is extremely painful. It caused me to close up on my husband completely, physically. I left him emotionally as well. I cannot open myself to a man who outwardly shows other women he wants them over his wife. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04322568253068145967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-33258964867359555232018-11-22T13:00:56.694-06:002018-11-22T13:00:56.694-06:00Honesty up front. I stumbled across your post beca...Honesty up front. I stumbled across your post because a young woman I knew at around age 14/15 (just three years ago; she just turned 18) in martial arts has recently started working at Hooters. She has turned out to be a very attractive young woman, but it sort of messes with me because I see the bright, curious, talented young lady from just a few years ago at the dojo...all I can think is "Why in the heck do you want to work at a place where guys up to 4-5x your age will be staring at you? For money?" Yeah, it's probably because she'll make great money. She claims to be a 'christian.' I'm not going to judge her. I can only hope she wants to pursue a better, deeper beauty that does not change with time. <br /><br />I read an article once that said that quite a lot of female Ivy League graduates (going into law, medicine, education, etc.) paid part of their way through school working at places like Hooters, TwinPeaks, strip clubs, etc.. I'm not saying that's a good thing. I think it's a sad thing, but I think most of what drives establishments like this is money even more than sexuality. (The love of mammon is the root of all evil.) The owners of a franchise or the chain could care less about the women who work there or what it might do to them. Heck, they probably wouldn't even let their own daughters work there. It's all about using them (just like pornography, movies, etc.) to make $$$. What bothers me though is young women claiming to be Christian who are so self-absorbed in their image for validation (I've seen it on Facebook/Instagram/Twitter) from younger and younger ages; trying to get a 'fan' base, get paid attention too, etc.. It's "I love Jesus" overlaid on some scantily clad clothing photo pointed at various parts of their body. It's just freaking NARCISSISM rampart on display. It concerns me. I think you have a right in your post. I agree with you. I was/am a pornography addict myself (in the sense that a true addict recognizes he/she will always struggle but doesn't want to). But what's helping me is that very thing some have mentioned: that women (and men) are more than the sum of their physical bodies. There's something deeper there, something Imago Dei as it were. Fathers...love your daughters and protect them. They'll love you all the more for it later. Fathers...teach your sons to turn away from the ads, the magazines, the videos. The curiosity surrounding sex has a reason...but it also has a better way I think God wants us to go about it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-8903121943787082182018-11-19T10:37:05.788-06:002018-11-19T10:37:05.788-06:00Excellent! Clear and understandable. Thank you v...Excellent! Clear and understandable. Thank you very much for posting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-38786429984366112152018-11-08T11:30:22.799-06:002018-11-08T11:30:22.799-06:00Dear Dawn
I am so sorry for you pain, which is ob...Dear Dawn<br /><br />I am so sorry for you pain, which is obviously very great. I will include you in my daily prayers. To answer your questions from the end forward.<br /><br /> Have I wasted 17 years of my life? I do not know much about you but can confidently say that no life is a waste. You have a son that you love and I am sure you have other good relationships in your life. You helped take care of your mother in her illness and her dying, thereby performing a great corporal work of mercy. In spite of difficult circumstances, you have been a faithful wife. No, your life has not been a waste. <br /><br />Am I wrong in feeling the way I do when he goes to these places anyways after I have poured my heart out to him asking him not to as it hurts me deeply and makes me feel unloved by him? Again, although I only have a limited view of the situation, it is safe to say that almost anyone would be deeply hurt in your situation.<br /><br />There are a number of problems here. Men who falsely accuse their wife of cheating generally have some deep rooted insecurity. False accusations of flirting, cheating, etc. can also be the initial signs of abuse. Additionally, your husband's substance abuse problems further complicates the problems in your marriage.<br /> <br />My first piece of advice is to avoid getting advice from strangers over the internet, which I certainly am. That notwithstanding, some things you should consider (I do not know if you have done any of these)<br /><br />- You should seek the counsel of a wise person local to you such as a priest, deacon, or minister.<br /><br />- You should consider some sort of counseling. It would be great if your husband would go with you, but if not go on your own<br /><br />- Be aware that your husband may get angry at the idea of counseling ("Why do we need counseling, there is nothing wrong") You should have a safe place to go planned in advance before you bring up this topic.<br /><br />- Keep in mind that every marriage is worth fighting for. I have some some that were in much worse shape than yours turn around. <br /><br />- So that you do not have to put any further private information on the internet, please email at deidominus@gmail.com of I can be of further or if I can help get you recommendations of someone that you can see closer to home.<br /><br /><br /><br /> Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-42423669144120553072018-11-08T10:44:03.765-06:002018-11-08T10:44:03.765-06:00I need some advice here, I am thinking about packi...I need some advice here, I am thinking about packing up and going back home to Illinois, I need to be somewhere where their are people who love me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01111797190445212776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-27254026695202680652018-11-08T10:14:30.843-06:002018-11-08T10:14:30.843-06:00Deacon Paul,
Thank you for your article. My husban...Deacon Paul,<br />Thank you for your article. My husband works out of town and is gone 90% of the year. I stay home and take care of the house and everything related to its maintenance. I very rarely go anywhere and when I do its either to church, a church related function (I take my neighbor kids with me), volunteering at the locale homeless ministry, or going to the store to get what is need. I have been faithful for 17 years! In that 17 years, I cannot tell you how many times my husband has accused me of cheating with absolutely no valid evidence. For example, in November of 2012, my my was rushed to the hospital, she had been fighting cancer for 2 years. They put her in a drug induced comma as she was having non stop seizures. I drove 11 hours from Texas to Illinois and I sat in the hospital for 4 days with my dad, sister, brother, and other family members watching my mom die. She passed away on November 20th at 11:30 pm, one day and 30 minutes before Thanksgiving. My dad had my sister and I go through her stuff and divide it on Thanksgiving day and the following day. I then drove 11 hours back home. My husband had to leave to go to work in Houston and our 13 year old son at the time would have no where to go. I got home around 8 pm that night with a car packed full of my mothers belongings, I had not grieved at this time as I was trying to keep it together for my family and I had to remain focused while driving. My husband and son unloaded the car and stacked things in our bedroom. That night my husband wanted to be intimate, but I was just not really into it with all my moms stuff there and thinking about everything. The next night I called him as I always do when he's out of town, and I could tell there was something wrong. I asked him what was wrong, it took a lot of coaxing to get it out of him and he finally said, so who were you sleeping with. Really? Who goes there? I was crushed, I needed my husband more than anything at that moment and he failed! There are many more incidents like this, because I went to church, because I took a shower,etc... He has lied to me many times too. In 17 years he has lost his job 3 times because he failed drug test, he has nearly caused us to loose everything. The last time was this past summer, we are still trying to catch up. I have tried to work, but he always pulls the who are you sleeping with, even though he is out of town. I worked at a women's clothing department store with all women. I was happy, I got to help people and socialize. I worked there for 2 weeks and he made me quit because the arguing was unbearable, and $9 an hour was not enough for me support myself and my son. I have had many conversations with him about this, he has no evidence, not even a good reason for suspicion, and it is infantile.While I discover he has went to places like Hooter's, Twin Peak's, Coyote Ugly, and a place in Keller Texas called Redneck Heaven where he spent $171, if you Google, you'll see they are way worse than all of the other a fore mentioned establishments. Not only does he go there but he spends at least $60 or more causing bills to bounce. Apparently last night he went to Hooter's in WV where he is and spent $58. Really? Can't you get a burger somewhere else a lot cheaper? I have told him how this makes me feel, I feel like I'm not good enough for him, I'm not young and pretty anymore, or skinny enough and I do not have large breast. I feel like he is not attacked to me anymore if he has to go to somewhere like that. A man who is aroused has no conscious. Have I wasted 17 years of my life? Am I wrong in feeling the way I do when he goes to these places anyways after I have poured my heart out to him asking him not to as it hurts me deeply and makes me feel unloved by him?Dawnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-60085698610046147492018-10-22T14:17:35.630-05:002018-10-22T14:17:35.630-05:00Dear Unknown,
Thank you for taking the time to re...Dear Unknown,<br /><br />Thank you for taking the time to read my humble BLOG. If you read the article carefully, I believe I stated that I went to Hooters a total of once in my life. I believe, also, if you read the other 19 comments, you will notice the many women who have been hurt by places such as this.<br /><br />Which points do you see as not valid and very flawed? I would certainly like to know and would like to dialogue with you on your thinking in this line. With regards to men with wandering eyes being the problem versus the practices of places like Hooters, I just don't see that. With that logic, going to strip clubs and attending wild parties is perfectly fine for a Christian man as long as he does not look or participate.Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-66019720715193818312018-10-11T18:03:49.165-05:002018-10-11T18:03:49.165-05:00I would go to say that you have never eaten there ...I would go to say that you have never eaten there because if you have they really do have the best fried pickles. I live in a metro city and with out a doubt I would choose their fried pickles over anybody’s else’s any day of the week. Also they have amazing 911 wings that are bar non. They actually taste like they are pepper hot and not chemicals hot. So why I do believe you made your point in the article, I believe some of your points are not valid and very flawed. Secondly if a Christian married man can’t go to a place and not control their wondering eyes then the restaurant is not the problem, the eye is! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10142436650927103449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-11982104135369896022018-06-30T00:56:36.747-05:002018-06-30T00:56:36.747-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07261885043235214709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-51070684153516205512018-05-28T22:36:41.984-05:002018-05-28T22:36:41.984-05:00congratulation, boycongratulation, boyCara membuat porasi cairhttps://bit.ly/2jimhcjnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-64906656123180862012018-05-17T13:10:35.525-05:002018-05-17T13:10:35.525-05:00Thank you for reading my humble blog. My God richl...Thank you for reading my humble blog. My God richly bless you each and every day. Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-72719143953877653642018-05-05T09:30:13.208-05:002018-05-05T09:30:13.208-05:00your post inspired usyour post inspired usPupuk Cabe Rawithttps://bit.ly/2HwFdj5noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-67672380810999165792018-05-01T14:53:33.658-05:002018-05-01T14:53:33.658-05:00Another great Homily, Deacon Paul, thanks for post...Another great Homily, Deacon Paul, thanks for posting.MarkPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509888371771425308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-63948536149132602552018-04-03T13:45:05.731-05:002018-04-03T13:45:05.731-05:00Food for thought, indeedFood for thought, indeedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-75912192998299916002018-01-03T08:31:58.532-06:002018-01-03T08:31:58.532-06:00It would be helpful if men listened and followed t...It would be helpful if men listened and followed through with meeting their wife's needs in this area. To go to a place like that, even if the man is not lusting after the women, is supporting all the men that do, is paying money to a business that supports this type of behavior for the men and women. They are sinning because they are hurting their wives Not loving them. It hurts me as a wife more because my husband does not respect my desire for him not to go. Are my feelings not important to you? If I become uneasy from your behavior, especially when it is hidden from me, to me my relationship with you becomes unsafe, and when I feel unsafe I cannot trust you. And when those feelings start happening the man is no longer meeting a woman's needs and she can no longer fulfill his needs. So we beg and beg for freedom from these feelings. Please don't go, you are destroying us. You are destroying thousands of people's lives and someone is profiting. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05371071113470101443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7740978947848607513.post-54001050853099086202017-12-12T16:30:36.875-06:002017-12-12T16:30:36.875-06:00I think you know exactly what purpose these places...I think you know exactly what purpose these places serve. This problem is so frighteningly common. I am amazed that of all the posts that I have written over the years, this is by far the #1 most read. <br /><br />It would be helpful of women would tell their men that this behavior is not acceptable in any fashion.Deacon Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392158617881664743noreply@blogger.com